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here are moments in life that reshape everything you thought you knew. For me, that moment came when my own marriage was in crisis—and I discovered how difficult it is to find truly competent couples therapy.

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My husband and I had been together for years. He was a lawyer, I worked in corporate strategy, and we had built what looked like a successful life. But beneath the surface, small issues had been accumulating. Communication breakdowns we dismissed as "normal." Resentments we told ourselves would fade. Distance we blamed on busy schedules.

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We didn't address them. And like compound interest, those small issues grew into something we could no longer ignore.

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When the crisis hit, we knew we needed help. As educated professionals with resources and connections, we assumed finding the right therapist would be straightforward. We were wrong.

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The search was bewildering. Therapist after therapist listed "couples therapy" among their services. When we called, they assured us they specialized in relational work. We scheduled appointments, hopeful and vulnerable, ready to do the hard work of saving our marriage.

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What we encountered instead was devastating incompetence.

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One therapist spent our sessions validating every feeling without providing any structure or tools. Another took sides, clearly favoring my perspective over my husband's. A third had us rehash our conflicts without any intervention—we left sessions feeling worse than when we arrived. None of them seemed to have a roadmap. None of them seemed to actually know how to help couples in crisis.

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We were drowning, and the people we turned to for lifelines didn't know how to swim.

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It was only later, after much research and many failed attempts, that I learned the statistics: 75% of therapists offer couples therapy, but only 10% have actual training in it. We had been cycling through the 90%—well-meaning generalists who had no business treating couples in crisis.

This experience changed the trajectory of my life.

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I left corporate work and pursued advanced training in marriage and family therapy. I became Gottman Method certified. I trained in PACT. I studied with the best in the field. And I made a commitment: I would build a practice that filled the gap I had experienced—a place where couples in crisis could find true expertise, not just good intentions.

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Union Station Therapy was born from that need.

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This is hard work. It's not for everyone. It requires specific methods, rigorous training, and the ability to hold space for intense emotions while providing clear structure and intervention. It's a calling that demands you show up with both heart and precision.

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I built this practice on the belief that couples deserve better. They deserve therapists who know what they're doing. Who have the training, the tools, and the track record. Who understand that compassionate listening isn't enough—you need assessment, intervention, skill-building, and follow-through.

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Most importantly, I built it because I remember what it's like to be on the other side. To be the couple in crisis, desperate for help, vulnerable and terrified. To place your trust in someone who doesn't have the competence to guide you through.

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No couple should have to experience what we did. That's why Union Station exists.

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If you're reading this and you're in crisis—or approaching one—I want you to know: the right help exists. Specialized, evidence-based couples therapy works. Research shows an 85% success rate when couples work with trained specialists.

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But finding that help matters. Don't settle for the 90% who list couples therapy as one of many services. Seek out the 10% who have dedicated their careers to this work.

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Your relationship is too important to leave to chance. It deserves expert care.

And you deserve a guide who knows the way through—because they've walked it themselves.